Month: April 2022

Ciao amore

mi sono resa conto ora che non ti ho fatto un post per il tuo quarto compleanno. Perdonami amore mio.

Ecco quello che ho scritto sui miei social il giorno del tuo quarto compleanno.

“Auguri Drin drin… quest’anno, per qualche strano motivo, sono priva di parole.. anomalo considerato chi sono.. e lo scoprirai presto.. ma in fondo tu mi regali fiumi di parole e allo stesso mi togli la facoltà di parlare, per quanto ti amo e per quanto la tua presenza nella mia vita, mi abbia sconvolto anima e corpo. Sei L’ossimoro più bello che potessi incontrare, Andrea… ti conoscevo anche quando eri sconosciuta.. tu hai portato una pragmatica follia alla mia esistenza .. e una sostanza impalpabile alla mia emozione…sei il senso di cui non sapevo di avere bisogno…sei la mia insegnante più importante a cui tutto devo insegnare. Ti auguro tutto ciò che ambisco a darti…perché fidati, che la tua mamma farà di tutto per far sì che sia tuo..persino l’essenziale invisibile agli occhi. Auguri vita mia!”

Singapore, April 7th 2022

I am guessing I need to write something in English too, cause your primary language seems to be more and more English and alas, a bit less Italian. I am wondering which other languages you will speak by the time you will decide to read these words, but regardless of that, my goal is to make sure you understand what I have to say, so I need to use a tool you master.

I was thinking these days of the importance of reading. You know, I am guessing, by now that I FIRMLY believe that the solution to a lot of problems in this world is education. In Italian we would translate this world with istruzione and not educazione. Educazione in Italian means also education but more so it means manners, whereas istruzione refers to knowledge and studying and school related matters.

Right now you are 4 years and 4 months and you cannot read yet, but every night we read books. So you are used to the practise of having a book in your hands and “read” it, even indirectly through me, everyday. My relationship with books I would say is quite good but, like anything, there is a whole lot of space for improvement. In fact my relationship has ups and downs: there are moments where I am a machine and I read a ton of books and moments where my brain needs a bit of nonsense and so I spend my free time, numbing my brain with netflix or trash tv. I am not proud of it, but hey it is what it is.

I have to say when I was travelling more, I was reading way more cause I had a ton of time to kill in flights and commute to office, but now I am not travelling much, because of Covid, and so I really need to force myself to continue my quest in Supreme Knowledge hahahah. Impossible..that doesn’t exist but I can assure you I could do a much much better job than I am doing right now. I have a few books queued to read in the trunk and I need to get my S**T together and read. In fairness I thought of this post because, in fact, I just finished a book called “Strong female lead” by Arwa Mahdawi. I came across this book cause Zio Fil sent me to Kinokuniya to buy him a few books and as I enter the book store, this one blue volume stole my attention and I simply couldn’t help myself. You know how much I feel about our role of women in this world, so well I mean I couldn’t simply pass it and move on.

I have to say I did the right thing to buy it: I swear it is not a manifesto pro feminists and against men. Also I don’t stand for that and you know that. But I damn stand for equity and really truly non gender bias and appreciating women, IN ALL of their amazing characteristics. In short this book shows how a model of leadership closer to a feminine code or mentality, if you will, could suit much better contemporary times and matters at hands. Women, because of the way we are raised, tend to be better listeners, more diplomatic and far less ego driven than men. And thats a fact. And it’s interesting how this author says that it’s not because of a physical difference in our brain, but more because of the way we are raised and “labelled” growing up.

Anyways the goal of this post is really not to tell you about this book in specific, but more about how much I hope that reading will be your companion in life and how much I wish you to enjoy this practise as much as I do. It’s really really beautiful to do it, trust me. Personally I am still a big fan of printed books and not so much of digital version, but to each his own. The thing that I keep on wishing on you since you were born is CURIOSITY…and not curiosity as in gossip, but curiosity of knowledge…God I wish you have it, babe! It will be so so so useful in your life. TRUST YOUR MOTHER.
My dad, your nonno, was a master at that: his thirst of knowledge knew no limits and he read about every subject you can think of. My memories of him, during his holidays, were, after he helped nonna, him sitting in the shadow, in a comfortable chair and a book in his hand. He could read a book a day, I kid you not. He was an amazing man and this one trait he had was very fascinating to me.

Ok I am off to the book store to buy you a colouring and lettering book cause you have a huge cold today and you are not going to school.

Ti amo amore mio perfetto…sei tutto!

Patty (yeah Patty cause these days you are calling me by name hahaha)

PS right now I am reading this book by Emma Dabiri titled “Dont touch my hair”. She is a half Irish (from mother) and half Nigerian (from father) of Yoruba descendant. I am learning the importance of hair in black culture…well about this I could write a whole chapter, cause you have no idea how much black women hair is a talking matter at the moment. Anyway I bought this book a while back and I need to learn these things for me and for you too. Ciao amore